Why Are People So Cynical About Love?

I don't get it.

Of course, I'm one of those people who is in love so maybe I don't have room to talk about this, BUT STILL...

I guess I don't get why people hate relationships. I can understand wanting to be single for a period of time and being open to guys (or girls) who come your way. And I understand wanting to enter into marriage as a business arrangement, like figuring out how well you will work together financially.

But what I can't understand is getting married to someone just cause it seems like a good idea. With love or some form of it not being the driving factor behind it. Or not wanting to date at all and feeling like some guy will just fall into your lap that you think is decent.

I feel that a partner should build you up, support you no matter what, call you out if you're being dumb, love you unconditional, not keep score, and just all around be someone who compliments your personality and makes you a better person.

I feel that you should enter into marriage under the basis of love and mutual respect for each other, but not solely love.

I learned a long time ago that a relationship cannot survive on love alone.

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I guess that I've been thinking about the prospect of marriage with David a lot more too. Like realistically. And I don't want to enter into it blindly as I did with Matt. I've been trying to think of things from every possible angle, like money, time, living arrangements, babies, and most importantly love.

Or maybe I'm just ahead of my time and my friends don't have the same ideals as me, like marriage and babies and working and sharing a life with someone, which, ya know, is fine cause they're my friends and I love them no matter what.

It just kinda sucks when I try to talk about marriage and they all say "Noooo! Not for me, not for another couple of years. Even then, I wouldn't want to be with someone who I was all lovey dovey mushy blah with."

Well, yeah, I wanna wait until I get out of school also, but I still like thinking about it and dreaming with David about that stuff.

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I guess people don't want me to get built up this fairy tale in my head and then have things crash down around me when it doesn't happen....

But who says I can't have my fairy tale? Who ways I can't have my British prince charming with his three children?

Nobody.

I just gotta be smart about it.

And I feel that I have been so far. Just need to keep that train rolling.

Over and out ♥